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At present, in many countries families have survived, which very carefully preserve all ancient customs and traditions, pass on to their children and grandchildren the foundations of a national, traditional family and still cannot accept the modern influence of society.
There are families in which, on the contrary, all these traditions begin to gradually die and are preserved only in the memory or history of the family. Such modern families have already fully accepted all the gifts that the civilized world brings with it.
The Chinese family is distinguished by the contrast between modern life and ancient family traditions. Despite the actions of modern culture, China has not abandoned the traditions that have been preserved not for hundreds, but for thousands of years, and which cannot be simply taken and forgotten.
According to old Chinese customs and superstitious views, the head of the family, a man, should see his children, especially sons, adults during his lifetime, see how they create a family, raise their children and grandchildren. It turns out that the head of the family must live to see his great-grandchildren and see them with his own eyes, if possible. He should try in every possible way to make sure that his family is not interrupted.
Of course, the son is responsible for the continuation of the family, because the daughter in China, after she gets married, leaves the parental home and goes to her husband's family. The son must continue the lineage further and in his family there must necessarily be a son, who, in turn, will also continue the lineage.
As a result, in China, the number of men prevails over the number of women, and every family must have a son. A woman adopts her husband's surname, and she will no longer take care of her parents and relatives, but of her husband's family.
This is due to the fact that in China it is customary to honor deceased relatives, and only a male representative can look after their ancestors. In order to have someone to take care of the head of the family in the future, he must leave behind someone who will do this, arrange sacrifices, and honor the memory of the dead.
Given these features, we can say that a large family in China is a real blessing. If there were no children in the family, if a woman is barren, then she does not deserve respect from relatives and from society as a whole. A woman unable to have children could not be a good housewife, and this could be a reason for divorce, because she does not deserve to be in her husband's family.
All these traditions and customs have been preserved in China to this day. Women are treated with respect only if she is able to give birth to a boy. The birth of a son is a great joy in the family, because in this case it will be possible to transfer all knowledge and customs to him, he is able to honor his ancestors.
If a girl was born, then this does not bring anything good, because she will grow up and leave the family, there will be no one to pass on all family traditions to. As a result, now many women in China even abandon their daughters in the maternity hospital, trying in every possible way to get rid of the girls who were born.
Such cruel laws applied to women would seem to be impossible in our time, because even cruel Muslim laws are now beginning to give up a little. Women are treated harshly in China, especially in rural areas.
There are cases when girls who are born are strangled and perform various machinations with women and newborn children. The time when it is already possible to determine the sex of a child for a woman becomes the most terrible moment in life, and often they themselves already determine the fate of a newborn girl in advance.
As a result of such customs, the population growth in China is increasing every year, because women are trying to give birth to a boy so that he can continue his family and take care of his ancestors. Only the son deserves respect in the family; daughters are discriminated against as well as mothers.
Although in order to marry a daughter, you do not need to spend a lot of money, because all the costs are usually borne by the family of the future spouse. In this regard, the girl's parents need not worry. It is enough just to prepare a modest dowry.
For this reason, the Chinese government now pays special attention to the number of children in a family, and having more than one child is considered simply unacceptable. There is a family planning law and families who adhere to this law can receive various benefits.
Those who go against this law can be subject to penalties and they can simply be tortured with huge taxes. On the one hand, this is the correct approach of China, because it is impossible to provide such a number of people with jobs and housing.
Large families in China suffer from poverty and unemployment. There is no opportunity to get a sufficiently good education, because there are not enough funds for this. On the other hand, it is simply impossible to get rid of the ancient age-old traditions and customs overnight, and the government will have to struggle with such cruel laws for a very long time.
China still has ancient wedding traditions that many families still adhere to. Traditionally, in China, the wedding day of young people is appointed by a holy man, a fortuneteller, who determines the happy day on which young people can get married.
According to custom, on the night of the wedding, the young should perform various rituals, they should burn incense, worship their ancestors, bow to their ancestors and offer prayers to heaven and earth. Young people in China crawl together on their knees into a cave, where they must drink the "drink of descendants" and perform other rituals.
According to tradition, from the moment when the parents agree on the wedding, and until the day of the wedding itself, the young perform many different ancient rituals, which take a lot of energy. To this day, the observance of such an ancient custom has been preserved, but now the costs of all these rituals have also increased significantly and the preparation for the wedding now takes much longer.